It has been said that a songwriter really only writes one song in his or her career - just many variations on one underlying theme. If this is the absolute truth, then there are a number of songwriters who disguise their single theme far beyond possible recognition. Still, I believe there's more than a grain of truth to the statement, and I can see it in my own writing. It's not that I don't try to write on various topics, it's just that certain ideas resonate deeply with me, and motivate me to dig at the idea until a song is born (if, at least, from various angles). Maybe experience brings a greater art of disguise for this one stubborn theme - or not.
This brings us to Valentine's day. There is much that is truly mystifying about human behaviour, and the love game seems to have more than its share of mysteries and absurdities. For what it's worth, I'm sometimes as mystified by my own behaviour and shifting views on the subject as I am by those of others. Nature has us hardwired to seek the rewards of a relationship - but nature herself is not hardwired to reward us as promised, with almost a take-the-money (or genes, in this case)-and-run approach. So many of the traits that are effective in attracting a mate are poor if not negative indicators that the person is suitable for a sustained, happy relationship. For example - a woman who is stunningly beautiful would likely have her pick of company - but if her life's passion is solely in making herself look good, it doesn't bode well for potential partners, unless such a partner seeks only 'arm candy'. Likewise, guys who are physically large, well-to-do, decisive and/or gregarious have great advantage in attracting a mate, but it's arguable as to which, if any of these traits do anything to sustain a healthy relationship. Nothing against all the big, beautiful, rich, chatty and decisive folks out there - it just seems like choosing a car purely on the basis of its colour or grille pattern. Still - without mutual attraction, the game's over before it begins, so it brings to mind what Churchill said about democracy - it's the very worst system, except for all the alternatives. The result is a lot of moths seeking open flame, despite knowing better. Probably not ideal circumstances for mental health and happiness - but a goldmine for songwriters. And hey, there are still some happy couples out there. 
Wanna hear a song about them? 
I didn't think so.
But anyway - Happy Valentine's Day, everybody!